Resisting the constant pull of persistent negative emotional feelings is de-energizing and physically draining ; emotional and physical well-being is not sustainable under the burden of low self-worth and low self-esteem, in large part because it takes a great deal of energy to think and act positively and productively when we simply don’t feel great about ourselves.
There are hundreds of reasons why a person may struggle with low self-esteem and confidence issues. The symptoms are seen in everything from severe weight management problems, promiscuity, risk-taking, depression, anxiety and fear of trying new things to fear of failure, poor body image, social withdrawal, inability to commit, repetitive infidelity, indecision, aggressiveness and defensiveness…the list of self-sabotaging and self-limiting behaviors by adulthood are endless.
Typically a person who suffers low self-esteem and poor self-confidence have difficulty accepting compliments from others. They often struggle with feeling like a fraud, worried that when the other person learns they are not so great after all, they will abandon them.
The major contributors to low self-esteem in children are parents and other relatives, teachers, child-care workers, grandparents, siblings, peers, and authorities in the child’s life. People who were abused as children (physical beatings, psychological or sexual abuse) typically exhibit low self-esteem as adults. Through negative messages from caregivers, direct and indirect, the wrong impression about their worth is compounded over time until the child absorbs the ‘message’ that they are of little value or just an object to be used and controlled.
People with low self-esteem are always very sure they are worth less than others in at least one area of their lives and usually in several. Convinced they are flawed or inadequate when compared to others, they often will not stand up for themselves. Anything positive that happens to them is good luck. Failure and criticisms from others are, in the eyes of someone suffering low self-esteem, direct confirmation of their ‘negative core identity’ and in their view, is deserved. While most people who suffer low self-worth tend to be meek and try to avoid conflict at all costs, many do become very defensive and explosive, with anger close to the surface.
As I am often repeating to clients who see me for treatment for low self-esteem, no pill or substance can make a person feel whole, accepted and happy. Only a subconscious re-framing of the events at the root of the self-doubt, negative feelings and confusion about oneself at the very deepest levels, without the interference of external ‘opinion’, can suffice to dissolve low self-esteem.
And that is the relief regression-to-cause hypnotherapy offers, because it helps a person self-identify the reasons for their feelings and how best to resolve the issues within their subconscious mind – the storehouse of all belief systems. I encourage readers to check out the rest of this site to learn more about emotional issues and how they can be resolved with my 3-session emotional freedom program.
Getting to and resolving the root cause of one’s unproductive view of themselves results in a cost-effective, permanent solution to self-sabotaging and good self-worth, allowing people to live their lives unlimited in all ways good and defined, not by old programming forced on them by others, but by they themselves.
Grace Joubarne is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and founder of GracePlace Wellness. She is a writer, blogger (AskGrace!) and long-time advocate of sustainable living, non-GMO and chemical-free foods and alternative health care modalities.